First date anniversary.....

A year ago today Kevin and I went on our first date. I can't believe that a year has passed already not to mention the fact that we've been married for over 4 months! If someone would've told me on December 16, 2007 that I was going to meet my husband the very next day, I would've told them they were lying! LOL!

We decided to celebrate our first date anniversary by going back to the Applebee's where we met a year ago. It was really nice because we were able to get the same table. Kevin of course tried to ask for the same server and I told him it was a bit much! He did however surprise me with a very special gift or gifts I should say. One of the first gifts Kevin ever gave to me was a charm bracelet. He gave it to me back in January with one charm on it and he promised to give me a charm each month as way of showing his commitment to me and our relationship. Well he gave me charms for the first few months but after about 4 months he couldn't find the charms anymore. Well, he found a website and was able to order all the charms. Here is a breakdown of the charms and meanings:

1. Elephant - This was the first charm and he gave it to me because I'm a Delta plus it also means good luck.
2. Lock and Key - I got this one in February and it symbolized me having the key to his heart
3. Music note - One of our favorite pastimes is singing Karaoke
4. Basketball net - Kevin suggested the idea of sponsoring a Teacher vs Student Bball game in order to raise money for the DIVAS Scholarship
5. Cross with a vine growing on it - This symbolizes our church, True Vine Ministries plus the fact that we have both grown spiritually as a result of our involvement
6. The letter "R" - Symbolizes my new last name Reese
7. Just Married charm - Symbolizes us being married
8. The number "8" - Of course it symbolizes our wedding date 08-08-08....PLUS it symbolizes a new beginning
9. A microphone - I recently joined the praise team at our church and have really focused on being active in that ministry
10. Sapphire - It's my birthstone
11. Baby carriage - Symbolizes our decision to start a family
12. Piggy Bank - This symbolizes the day we painted a piggy bank at a local pottery store and started our wedding fund

I was very surprised by the fact that he took time out to find all of these charms to represent our relationship. I was even more impressed at the fact that he held true to word of showing his commitment to me. Granted he wasn't able to get them each month as he initially promised however before the year was up, he got them all. I really love my husband!!!

"You should rock together...."

Today was the first Saturday that Kevin and I have had off together in a while. We decided that it would be the perfect day to finish up our Christmas shopping for our families. Given the fact that New Bern mall or the indoor walking center as I call it only has about 5 stores, it was either go the Smithfield to get gifts or everyone would receive gift cards. The best part of the trip was going to lunch at Cracker Barrel. I don't remember the last time I'd had food from Cracker Barrel. It had to be over a year ago while I was shopping with my best friend, Tanisha. Anyway, there was of course a wait so we decided to enjoy the weather outside and rock in the lovely rocking chairs. As we are rocking in our own little world, this older lady walks by and she says, "You have to rock together!". Kevin and I had not noticed that we had our own little rock going in an alternate way. We quickly got on one accord and thanked the lady for her advice.

You know me...the deep thinker...I started reflecting on that. First let me say that I don't intentionally try to to relate everything back to God however I tend to do so quite often. The more I thought about that remark, the more I smiled because I truly feel that it was God's way of imparting wisdom to us. In a marriage it is so easy to get off the same page or speed up while the other is still going slow. A couple must always be on the same page and be willing to adjust to remain on the same page in order for the "rock" to be enjoyable for both parties. If one person insists upon rocking to the beat of their own drum, both will miss out on truly magnificent feeling of being married. Rocking to the same beat requires you to pay attention to the other person even while you are talking or drifting off into a daydream. It really forces you to have an awareness of the other person even when you don't normally think you would. I think that is the lesson that we were suppose to take from that comment. At all times we must be aware of the other person and just as with the rocking, once you have that awareness it is as if you are acting as one body.

Four Months....

Today marked our four month anniversary. Wow...time truly flies when you are having fun. Kevin and I met with our wedding planner today...well i guess I should call her the reception planner seeing as though we are no longer having a full on wedding but a mega reception. The change in the plans has saved us over $1,000 so that is great!



This past Sunday I was able to do something with Kevin for the first time. I ate at his restaurant and he was able to join me! He had to work and I typically steer clear of his restaurant because I'm not a steakhouse person but I figured I would go in after church for a nice salad. Anyway, while we were having lunch, one of the waitresses came over to our table to meet me. This young lady looked like she as still in high school and was very polite. She went on to say that Kevin talks about me all the time and that is always saying nice things about me. She proceeds to say that she has never heard a man speak about his wife like Kevin talks about me. She said he is always saying how wonderful I am and how much he is love with me. All I could do is grin because I'm thinking this girl has nothing to gain by telling me all of this. Clearly he didn't stage all of this because he didn't know that I was even coming so for her to come over and say what she said really touched my heart.

How many women can say that their husbands talk about them in that way? I thank God for blessing me with this man. I am the luckiest woman in the world!

I'm done...

My final paper for my class is done! I am so excited. As I look back over the past semester I am amazed at how far I have come. I was so ready to throw in the towel back in October because things were so out of control for me. I owe all of this to God because it was by his grace and mercy that I made it through. For people who think that God isn't real...trust me He is! Even more important, for anyone who thinks that God will not honor your requests...HE WILL!

Tomorrow, or my first day of freedom as I call it, will be spent in church then onto Christmas shopping! I'm just so happy knowing that this big cloud that has been following me around is gone! Thank God!!!!

Thanksgiving Eve and Thanksgiving 2008

Wow...what a difference a year makes! Kevin and I celebrated our very first Thanksgiving yesterday. Our festivities started Wednesday night when he got off work. We had already decided what dishes we would be responsible for and since Kevin clearly has the cooking skills in the family, he was in charge of all of the "high impact" dishes. Those dishes included my favorite desert: a yellow cake with chocolate frosting. Since we had to stay up and wait for the cake to bake we decided to go ahead and move the furniture in the living room and start the process of decorating for Christmas.

It was really fun but very exhausting moving the furniture around. We actually put the tree up but decided to wait until Thanksgiving Day to actually decorate it. I decided to get Bentley dressed for the occasion. She of course did what she does best...chilled and let us do all the work.

Although we were tired from staying up late on Thanksgiving Eve, Kevin and I were still very excited. I fixed a special breakfast....waffle sandwiches (Kevin's favorite) and we relaxed for most of the morning. We planned to eat early afternoon because we were invited to a birthday party later that evening. We started cooking around noon and were eating by 3:00pm.
While we waited for our food we decorated the tree. Now I do understand that the tree looks a little malnourished, however I've had for the past 3 years and I couldn't let it go! This was the first and last year that the "Charlie Brown christmas tree" made its appearance in the Reese household! LOL!

Well, once the food was ready we chowed down on a feast fit for a King and his Queen! All in all we had a great first Thanksgiving together. I truly had so much to be thankful for this year.

Our first major holiday...

So Thanksgiving is right around the corner and I have to be honest...I'm getting really excited. Last year this time I was of course VERY single and unhappy. It's so funny because this is possibly the first year in a VERY long time that I have not been depressed around this time of year. In the past, the holiday season served as a reminder that I didn't have anyone. Once I graduated from college I just felt that I was too old to keep going home to "mom and dad's" for the holidays. I felt that I needed my own family unit to celebrate with. I use to go my sister's house and celebrate with her, my niece and nephew but in the end it wasn't all that fulfilling.

I'm so excited that this year I have a husband and the opportunity to start OUR very own traditions for our family. I think that's the exciting part....starting a tradition. I think the tradition will take our married life to the next level. This will be the first tradition for our family..isn't that neat?

On a different note, I had a great conversation with my BFF Jeffy tonight. We went down memory lane spiritually tonight. It's amazing the difference that a year makes in our lives. We serve a truly amazing God. When I think back to where I was a year ago and where I am now....I can't help but get chills! I can't stress enough the importance of allowing God to bless you in his time.

The family that PRAYS together...

There is an expression that we have all heard or said before and it goes like this:

"The family that prays together, stays together"

Of course I've always known what that meant but I can honestly say today that I KNOW what it means!! Yesterday was quite an interesting day for Kevin and I. Granted it we all know that it was Halloween and some CRAZY things happen on that day...well the devil was truly busy yesterday. Kevin and I had our biggest argument/aggressive conversation/disagreement/etc. whatever you want to call it! What made this "argument" so interesting was it started over something so trivial. It seemed like over the past two weeks we have been having these weird interactions where either he or I would say something and it would be interpreted as something offensive to the other person. It was such an uncomfortable feeling because we couldn't put our finger on why things had changed but most importantly what exactly had changed.

Well, last night during our reflection exercises, Kevin makes the statement "we don't even pray together in the mornings like we used to...what's up with that!" It wasn't until he said it that it made sense! The past few weeks have been extremely busy for the both of us. Given the fact we have been so busy and operating on weird schedules, we were getting up and praying on our own but not together as we had done since we have been together. What makes my relationship so special with Kevin is that from the VERY beginning, we would pray EVERY morning together as well as eat breakfast together. It was like it was our special quality time together not to mention it was a great way to start our day on one accord.

So, we both realized that simply praying on our own doesn't work for us. We must pray together at the beginning of our day so that we start out on one accord with each other but more importantly be on one accord with God. God has been at the center of our relationship from day one. I have never been in a position to fully realize and experience the importance and vitality of keeping Christ first in a relationship. It really takes both people to come together and commune with God TOGETHER in addition to their separate times. Granted we know there will be times that we won't be able to pray together in the morning but you better believe that it WILL happen at some point during our day.

Goodbye to you!

Today marked the last day that I will take birth control pills for a while. Kevin and I have decided that it is time to start our family. This decision has come about after much conversation, praying, and reflection. I'm really excited about this because over the past few years I have actually shifted from not knowing if I wanted to have kids to thinking that I didn't want to have kids to now knowing without a shadow of a doubt that I want to have children.

I think my recent urging has come from several things. I found out a few weeks ago that one of my LS's from college is expecting her second child. I remembered how excited I was when she told me she was pregnant with her first. It was a over 3 years ago and I was just so happy for her. I had attended her wedding a few years prior to that so it was really neat to see a friend of mine get married THEN have a baby! She chronicled EVERY step of her pregnancy and I thought to myself...I can't wait until I'm at that point in my life to fully embrace a pregnancy. When I found out her wonderful news the a few weeks ago, my mind immediately went back to my thoughts surrounding her first pregnancy. The excitement and joy filled my heart and mind again because I thought to myself...I am now in the position to experience the same thing!

Well, who knows how quickly we will be blessed with a child. We are planning to wait a few months before actually "trying" in order to give my body an opportunity to adjust to life after the pill. I can't help but be extremely excited about the idea of motherhood.

Overwhelmed...

I've been experiencing some medical issues for the past month and half. I've had tenderness in my left side along with feelings of nausea and heartburn. I even had a stint of vomiting at random points during the day. I took two home pregnancy tests and they were both negative...so that ruled out the obvious. I went to the doctor a week ago and they took blood and urine samples. Those tests came back fine and in normal limits. No signs of infections or elevated white blood cell counts. Additionally, the pregnancy test came back NEGATIVE. I was scheduled for a CT Scan later in the week so I was really hoping I would finally get to the bottom of my pains.

Well, in preparation of the CT Scan I had to drink this white stuff that had a citrus taste to it. Oh my...it had to be the worst tasting stuff that I had to drink EVER! If drinking two bottles wasn't enough, I had to drink them within an hour of each other. I was able to get them down after throwing up some of the first and "accidentally" spilling some of the second down the sink. Anyway, I received a call from the nurse the other day with the results from that. Once again, my results were NEGATIVE for anything abnormal. I was a little upset with the results because I was secretly hoping something was wrong so that I would have an explanation. I immediately apologized to the nurse and repented to God for my reaction. It is a blessing to receive good news because trust me had there been bad results I would've been a mess!

So...reflecting over all of that I have come the conclusion that my feelings of discomfort are coming from non other than STRESS. I have been able to isolate times where I feel the most intense feelings and it is ALWAYS when I start thinking about my never ending list of things to do.

I have decided to take the next semester off from graduate school. I quickly arrived to this decision however now that I've made it, it has hit me and now I'm really trippin'! I have always taken pride in the fact that I can take on just about anything and come out on top. I preach to young girls all the time that you face your challenges head on and don't back down. Look at me...I'm backing down. I've shared my decision with my husband, close friends, and family and everyone seems to be in agreement with my decision. I just feel like a cop out. I know people who have juggled more than I currently am and they made it! They worked hard and stuck with it.

I don't know...I'm just a little overwhelmed right now.

You must have been a beautiful baby....

Above is a picture of Kevin and his twin Keith. Keith sent this picture to Kevin a few days ago and I have to admit I have been staring at it ever since! I have always had a fascination with twins AND I hope and pray that I am blessed to have a set. This the first time that I've seen a picture of Kevin as a child and now I am really thinking about having children! Don't get me wrong...I still want to wait a few months before we embark on the road to parenthood.

Oh...in case anyone is wondering...Kevin is the one on the left giving everyone a free peek at his goodies! LOL!

Why did I get married?

This past weekend as an awesome weekend for Kevin and I. He had Saturday off however we both still had to work that morning. We were both done by early afternoon so we still had the rest of the day. Anyway, I knew I didn't want to do much for the rest of the day and deep down I knew he felt the same way. It's funny because it's very seldom that we are both off on the weekend so we always try to seize the moment to do something outside the house. This weekend was different though! We grabbed lunch at Arby's and decided to turn the rest of the day into a Blockbuster day!


It had been almost a year since I stepped foot into a Blockbuster! I'm really not a movie watcher but a the same time I do enjoy the quality time that it brings. We ended up purchasing four movies (Why did I get married, What happens in Vegas, Who's your Caddy, and First Sunday). Kevin and I both had already seen First Sunday...it was actually our first movie date. I had already seen "Why did I Get Married" however it was such a GREAT movie I didn't mind watching it again.


I must admit it was really interesting watching it with my husband. The first time I saw it, I was very single and actually left the theatre in a funk because I wasn't married and didn't see myself ever getting married! There were several moments during the movie where Kevin would say "I'm glad we talk about everything" or "We aren't going to keep any secrets". I have to admit there were also times where he got emotional. The movie really brings to surface things that people experience regardless of gender, race, or socio economic status.

I can say that by the end of the movie we were both glad that not only we were HAPPILY married but most importantly married to each other!

The big 2-9!

Today I celebrated my 29th birthday. It is truly a blessing to be counted among the living! It's so funny how in a year my entire life changed. Last year I celebrated my birthday with my sister and niece at a local Japanese restaurant. For the past few years that has been our ritual because my niece and I share the same birthday. We are exactly 20 years apart. I think that it's really neat to be able to see a miniature version of me at the various stages of life. Anyway, following the dinner last year I retreated back home where I got the "after party" started! Seriously, though I proceeded to drink a full bottle of wine and enjoyed the rest of evening at home alone.

Well that was last year!

This year was SPECTACULAR!!! Kevin and I decided that we wanted to do something special for Meya this year. Back in March, Kevin and I had the opportunity to attend this fun park in Raleigh called Frankies. We had a blast and knew we wanted to share this experience with Meya. Anyway, we decided to make a weekend trip out of it and we wanted to surprise Meya with it. She had a blast at Frankies! I didn't realize it at the time but it was her first time ever getting to actually drive the go carts! She of course was so excited and immediately developed the need for speed! She also got the opportunity to play laser tag for the first time. I am so glad that we were able to give her this experience that she will never ever forget.

The WORLD'S GREATEST HUSBAND....

I am so blessed to have a husband who makes it his mission to satisfy my every desire. What I truly love about Kevin is that he listens to me and really takes my feelings into account with all of his actions. For my birthday Kevin and Bentley gave me a really nice pair of Adidas walking shoes. The gifts didn't stop there because Kevin also gave me a photo printer! What makes this gift so special is that Kevin got this for me because he heard me mention over 6 months ago that I wanted one. Now ladies...how many of you out there have men who remember what you said 6 minutes ago let alone 6 months ago! So, I now have a photo printer and I can now print out pictures for our scrapbook, Christmas cards, and for any other purpose. I'm really excited as I think about the many uses of my gift. I'm sure as our family expands that printer will get a full workout! All in all I have to say this was my best birthday. I was surrounded by family and friends. I was able to give my niece an experience that she will remember forever and my husband did the same for me.

I really love my husband.....

Gotta get organized...

Ok...this week I almost had a slight melt down! So, I'm sitting at work and decide to check my blackboard account to see if any information was posted only to discover that about half the class was posting their journal reviews. Well...that might not be a cause for alarm for most however I WAS NOT AWARE IT WAS DUE!!!!!!

Of course I began to freak out. The assignment required me to locate a journal article and write an academic review of it using the provided format. The hard part is not writing the review BUT locating the article to review! In the end I found one when I got home and was able to get it completed later that evening. As a result of this near melt down, I've decided that I must get organized and regain control over my chaotic life.

Almost a month...

In few days we will celebrate our one month anniversary as a married couple! Isn't that funny! What's weird is I recently read a post from my friend pertaining to her 7 year anniversary. First of all I can't believe that 7 years has gone by already! It seems like only yesterday that they got married. I don't know much about the ends and outs of their marriage however based on what I do know (from her blog of course!) I sincerely hope and pray that Kevin and I are just as blessed throughout our marriage as they have been in theirs. They have a beautiful daughter, they both have awesome careers, and it appears that they have kept God at the center the of their relationship. I'm sure that's why they have been so successful.

As more and more people are finding out that I am married, I have been on the receiving end of advice. It's been very interesting sifting through all of it. I truly understand that I should be prepared for the first year being the toughest year. I have to admit I am a little nervous about all of that. I can't help but think or ask the question: does it truly have to be? I mean I know that there will be a day where the "honeymoon" ends and the realistic view of marriage kicks in but if the two people "prepare" for it...can't the drama be avoided?

The first month has been great for us. I know for me I have really noticed a shift in my thought process. I am very proud of my ability to get over my childish and immature ways when things don't go the way I want them to. I am also impressed in my ability to think of Kevin and his needs without a second thought. It's funny when I walk in a store and pick up a bottle of his favorite Vitamin water or record a show I know he wants to watch (because he's at work) without even thinking about it. I have even had the moment where I didn't feel like cooking but did it anyway because I knew that he was tired and hungry from working a 13 hour shift. It really feels good doing those things because you truly love a person and you know the value they have in your life. I can't thank God enough for blessing me with Kevin.

Updates...

I can't believe that my last posting has been well over a month and some change ago. So much has happened since my last posting....

AUGUST 8, 2008

Kevin and I got married! We decided that it was more important to live a life pleasing to God than doing things "our way" in efforts to save money for our wedding next year. It feels really good knowing that at the end of the day Kevin and I are in a relationship that is pleasing to God and well with both of our souls.

It really was a nice ceremony. We initially tossed around the idea to get married and only include a witness but over time we both decided that we wanted our parents to be a part of our special day. In the end, we both had representation from our families along with close friends share with us our special day. Looking back at it now, I am so glad that I did things the way I did it. So much of my life I have spent doing things the way others felt I should. I can honestly say that this was one of the first decisions I made that I was 100% bought into and truly supported.

I feel so blessed to know that for the rest of my life Kevin and I are forever connected. We are as ONE and I am so happy!

Our honeymoon was really sweet. We spent the night at a wonderful Bed and Breakfast here in New Bern. I can honestly say it was SO romantic!! Again, it really is the simple things in life that are really near and dear to me. We are planning to do it up big next year, however I will forever remember my simple ceremony followed by my simple honeymoon celebration.

What's in a name.....

In the second or third grade I took it upon myself to change the spelling of my first name. My first name is legally spelled "Pamie" however being the rebellious person I am, I chose to drop the "e" on the end and spell my name "Pami". You may be wondering how or why I would think of such an idea. Well, I recall my mother telling me the story of my name. My father was given the wonderful privilege of naming me. As I understand it, he had a thing for a character on Dallas named Pam. My mother wasn't going to stand for him naming me simply "Pam" therefore she decided to add an "i" thus naming me "Pami". Well, according to my mother the nurse who wrote down the information for my birth certificate decided to add an "e" thus turning my name into "Pamie".

Anywho, for the past 20 years I have spelled my name as Pami. I knew that the day would come when I would have to make a choice either go back to spelling it the way it is legally supposed to be or legally changing it to reflect my spelling. I decided last summer that I would go back to my "Pamie" spelling because it would be easier in the long run to pick up the "e" that I so casually threw away! LOL!

Ok...enough of the first name drama. I have been thinking really hard the past few weeks about what I plan on doing with my married name. Now, clearly I know that I'm not a celebrity nor a public official (***don't trip...I will one day! just watch!) but I have really struggled with the thought of giving up my current last name. In the professional realm I have established myself in this area and I'm a little hesitant to give that name up. I fully understand that I am not the first nor will I be the last to go through this experience however I do know that I don't do change well and I've had my last name for the past 28 years!

Ultimately I know that I will drop my last name and proudly take on his name. After all, I am me regardless of an "e" so changing my last name won't change me either! Wow... my entire name will be different! Once again...only Pami...oops I mean Pamie finds herself in these situations!

My Proposal (Part II)

Kevin is really a sweetheart!!! He placed an ad in our local newspaper asking me to marry him. It is so sweet and romantic! I am truly blessed to have a man like him. Enjoy!

Below is the actual link where you view the proposal online. I'm not sure how long the link will be active so enjoy it while you can!

http://epaper.newbernsunjournal.com/Repository/ml.asp?Ref=RlNKLzIwMDgvMDcvMDIjQWQwMDMwNg==&Mode=G&Locale=english-adl-skin-custom

HE PROPOSED!!!!!!!

Kevin proposed tonight!!! It was so sweet how he popped the question. He started out by asking me this afternoon how would feel if I were proposed to twice. I was like it wouldn't matter to me how many times he proposed to me. He had a plan in place already but of course he couldn't contain himself. We left for bible study early because Kevin insisted that we arrive early so he could speak to our pastor. Once Pastor Smith arrived Kevin quickly got up and said he need to speak to him in the hallway.

I figured something was up at that point again I wasn't that sure. Well, Pastor decided to begin bible study as usual with asking people if they had anything they wanted to share. A couple of people spoke then the next think I knew Kevin was getting up! He starts out thanking everyone for their support over the past few weeks as he has been dealing with some stresses at work. He turns to me and thanks me as well. Then next thing I know he starts to kneel as he is reaching in his pocket and pulls out the ring box!!!!

I don't remember all that he said at that point! I was clearly speechless and taken back by everything. I did shed a few tears because I was so shocked and happy. I trembled as I held out my hand for him to slide the ring on my finger. He asked me to marry him and I said YES!!!!!!!!!

I'M GETTING MARRIED!!!!!!!

MER is on her way....

***********Attention everyone*************

MER has left the building and is on its way to being sized!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

** I am not at liberty to discuss how I know this information but just know that I do!!!! Stay tuned!

Moving on up...or am I?

I received a phone call today from the principal informing me that I was being moved from my office to another one up front. I was in my old office for 3 years and I absolutely loved it. Don't get me wrong, there were some things about it that drove me wild at times BUT overall I loved my office. I believe the reason why I loved it so much was because it was so accessible to the students and others in the building. Unlike the offices up front where you have to go through a secretary to see someone.

I have a reputation throughout the school of being very approachable when it comes to issues or the simple need to talk. I used to get so many comments from students saying that they didn't feel comfortable talking to their guidance counselors because they felt as though it was a hassle just to see them. It will suck in that regard not being someone in the school the students can simply walk up to my office and "talk" if they need to.

On the flip side, my office moving up front will be good in the sense I can probably get a ton of work done and not be constantly interrupted. As I have mentioned before, I tend to have a touch of ADD so any distraction is a distraction! I will miss my old space and the memories. I'm telling you...if those walls could talk! I know a lot of teachers in the building will miss my office space as well. I also served as a sounding board for them as well. I know that I will be missed but as they say...all GREAT things have to come to an end!

My big sister...

It's really funny how time has changed the nature of my relationship with my sister. Growing up we never really got along. I think the main reason was we were so different. My sister was the girlie girl type who was popular with her friends and boys. I, on the other hand was the tomboyish awkward type who was more interested in playing basketball or football with the boys. As a result of our extreme differences, it wasn't until recent years that we have forged a close bond.

I can tell that within the past year our relationship has grown closer and even more so since we have started working on my wedding plans. My sister will serve as my maid of honor and I am really impressed with her zeal and level of excitement she has displayed thus far. I am convinced that we will become even closer as we tackle the issues and challenges that will arise as August 8, 2009 draws closer. The coolest part of all of this is that not only do I get to share this experience with my sister, my niece (who I share a birthday with...we are 20 years apart) is also enjoying every moment of the planning process.

Today we enjoyed lunch and a "dress up" session at a local bridal shop. My niece, Meya, has been really excited about the wedding since she heard about it. She even went as far to let me know that she "had first dibs on being the flower girl". I found that quite amusing considering she will be 9 when the actual wedding takes place. I showed her a picture of me in a wedding dress from the other day and she exclaimed, "that's exactly how I imagined you would look!".

I am very happy and fortunate to be able to share this experience with my big sister and my niece.

The perfect date day....

It's been quite the adjustment for me entering into my summer break. Although I was quite excited about having the entire summer off, deep down I knew it would possibly put a strain on my relationship with Kevin. He works these really long shifts and quality time is sometimes really hard to achieve. I am quite impressed with how we have both handled the situation thus far. We are making the most of our time that we have together.

Well, today marked the first time that Kevin was off during my official summer break. We were both excited that we would have the entire day to spend together. The morning started off with me going for my morning walk. After my walk I rushed home to shower before I headed to my 7:00 am hair appointment. I was really happy that I was getting my hair done considering it had been quite some time since my last relaxer. What a difference some chemicals can make!!!

Kevin and I decided that today we would make the most of our day and do so by looking at wedding dresses. Now...I have to place a pause here to reiterate once again that I am not the typical bride! I have never walked into a bridal shop nor have I had the desire to do so. I was pleasantly surprised with the shop and the assistants. Everyone was really friendly, helpful, and patient with me as I once again ventured over into the "foreign land". I believe the funniest part of the day came when the young attendant set up my dressing room with two dresses. She was about to leave me to get dressed when I looked at her and simply asked, "what am I supposed to do?". She looked back at me and asked if I needed help...of course I said yes! It was at that moment that I stripped down and allowed this complete stranger to dress me. Did I mention that she was probably 5'1 and I'm about 5'9! That alone was hilarious trying to squat low enough for her to guide the dress over my head. I only tried on two dresses. I like them both but I didn't have the "aha!" moment.

Kevin and I had a nice lunch afterwards at a neat little restaurant. That was cool. We found this pet store and instantly fell in love with it. I was able to find a dress for Bentley...it is so cute! It will be perfect for the bridal photos. We walked around a little more before we headed to Sonic for a slush.

Our spectacular date day ended with us going to the movies and watching "Sex and the City". The movie was awesome!!! It is a must see for all fans of the show. After the movie we took a drive down to the waterfront where we sat on our favorite bench and talked. I really enjoyed myself. Kevin is a wonderful guy. I can't help but thank God for him. It's so easy being me with him.

I am looking forward to his next day off on Sunday!

Another year has ended....

So today officially marked the last day of the school year for me. I am beginning my summer vacation tomorrow. There is a saying that "time flies when you are having fun". Well, I beg to differ! This school year has not really been that fun. It started off as any other school year however there was new captain of the ship. He was determined to turn things around and shake things up a bit. Well, he did! In the end I learned a lot about myself and accomplished quite a bit so all was not lost.

On this Saturday, June 14, 2008, NBHS will graduate 419 seniors! I believe this is the largest class the school has had. Out of those 419 students, six of them were in DIVAS this year. I am excited and happy for all of them. The entire world is at their feet and I hope I have inspired them to go forth and explore.

Congrats to all Classes of 2008!

I found MER....

I have found my ring!!!! I am so excited. I have had the hardest time deciding on the ring that I want. I am so happy to report that I have found the ring that produced the reaction that I never thought I would have! Let me back up and tell you how it happened....

I decided last week that I would continue my quest to find the "perfect ring" on today. I figured that I would choose a different jewelry store each day this week to visit after work. By switching up stores I figured I wouldn't wear out my welcome at any one place with my constant questions and indecisive nature. I figured today I would head to the indoor shopping center here in New Bern aka the Twin Rivers Mall. When I walked in I had all intentions of going to Zales because I figured they would have a great selection of rings. At the last moment I decided to head into Kay Jewelers mainly because of their advertised motto of "Every kiss begins with Kay". I'm thinking surely they won't let me down!

Well, I walk in only to discover the workers playing a nice game of cards seeing as though the indoor shopping center was empty (as always). David, an older gentleman, introduced himself to me and I told him that I wanted to look at engagement rings. I told him I was interested in the three stone rings and he showed me the case that contained them. The first ring he showed me was ok. I liked it but it just wasn't doing it for me. He showed me another one that round stones versus the princess cut that I have come to love. I thought that ring was really nice because there was spacing between the three stones and I hadn't seen that yet. The center stone was also raised and it really stood out. I liked it too but again...it was no princess cut!

He showed me another three stone ring that had a very plain band. I wasn't feeling it at all. He got up and walked to another case and brought MER (My Engagement Ring) back. It was almost like the heavens opened and the great God Almighty spoke to me and "My child that's the one". Seriously though...I started grinning and I knew it! It was the one...i've finally found MER!

The Wedding Planner...

Ok...so things are beginning to sink in for me. Kevin and I met with the wedding planner the other day and things are looking better for me. I no longer feel so overwhelmed about this whole idea of a "wedding". See unlike most women, I was never the type to daydream about the wedding of my dreams. I was too busy trying to hang with guys or just simply had my nose in a book! Anyway, I have not a clue as to the steps one must take to plan a wedding nor do I have slightest desire to do so! I know it sounds so bad to hear me say this but honest to God this is how I feel.

Well, our wedding planner Windee seems as if she is sent from heaven! By the time we left her office, not only had we paid the retainer fee...we took it step further and had planned the ceremony and reception decor! I actually found myself smiling and even doing my happy dance...lol! Well, now that money has been paid towards the wedding so things are slowly moving along.

We have several referrals for the cake, photographer, and DJ. In true Pami fashion we will have Karaoke during the reception! I mean really what kind of party would it be without me having an opportunity to live out my American Idol dreams!

August 8, 2009...

Well, Kevin and I have had that important discussion and a date has been set. I will become Mrs. Kevin Eugene Reese on August 8, 2009!

As we all know I have very delayed reactions to things so stay tuned for future blogs as I'm sure they will become very interesting!

D.I.V.A.S. Banquet

The banquet was wonderful this year. I had my reservations going into it because I really didn't have a lot of time to focus solely on it prior to it taking place. I can honestly say the girls rose the challenge and did a great job bringing everything together. The guest speaker was wonderful. Her message for the young ladies was very inspirational and right on time. I took a lot away from it as well.

This year I wasn't able to purchase the caliber of gifts as I have in the past. That was a little frustrating in the beginning however as always, things happen for a reason and all things worked out great. I ended up finding these beautiful daisy cups at Target and had them personalized for the girls. They are really beautiful. The girls really love them.

Let's talk about their gift to me. Wow....it really brought me to tears when I saw their gifts. Kevin purchased a platter from this pottery store and had the design from the back of one of our shirts drawn on it. The girls then wrote personal messages on it. It is so beautiful! I love it! I have to get a display stand so that I can take to work and place it in my office. It is wonderful. Oh...it doesn't stop there....the girls also each wrote a personal letter of appreciation to me. Talk about emotional...I was in tears reading some of their kind words. Just reading their thoughts toward me was so refreshing and humbling. I will always and forever cherish these gifts.

End of the road....

Well, the end of my semester in graduate school is over and I so happy! I have spent my first day of "freedom" doing absolutely nothing! I just finished talking with my mother so I now I know what I will need to purchase for her Mother's Day gift. I've come to the conclusion that I'm really not a "gift" shopper. I am forever grateful to the inventor of gift cards. I have adopted the ritual only giving "presents" at Christmas and gift cards throughout the year (i.e. birthdays, Mother's Day, Father's Day, etc.). It really works for me. I like to place a lot of thought in my gifts therefore having time throughout the year to shop just doesn't work for me.

So, Kevin and I reworked my second bedroom. I'm really excited. I took down my huge corner desk. I'd had it for over 5 years and it was time to say goodbye. It was time to downsize and get rid of the desktop because I now have a laptop and was not really using it. I'm giving that one to my niece so she will have her own computer. Anyway, I have added a futon to the room so now it can serve as a guest room and a den. I am loving it! All I could think of today while I was lounging in it was how neat it's going to be this summer curled up on the futon reading a book! I'm so excited about that.

Below is a great picture of Bentley. She is so photogenic. I love her so much. Isn't she cute???

At what point....

Ok...I have a question. At what point is enough truly enough? I was always taught to be the bigger person and walk away however I'm finding it harder and harder to simply turn the other cheek. When is it ok to stop being the bigger person?


A friend of mine from college would always make the comment, "Well , they lied on and talked about Jesus so why would I expect to be treated any better". I remembered the first time he made that comment....I laughed. I wasn't laughing at what he said...I was laughing at how he said it. In this world we live in, there are really mean spirited people. There are people who will say things and do things for not apparent reason. It blows my mind at just how easily a person can make a statement that is so mean about another person who they don't even know.

I guess all I can do is pray for their hearts to soften and for God to truly work within their hearts. I will also pray for the strength to continue to be the "bigger person". The true character of a person is revealed when times get hard. I can't crumble now under the pressure of silly comments and criticisms. I mean after all "sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt!"

NBHS Prom 2008....

Ok... so is a little known history fact about me. While in high school I attended the prom during my sophomore year. I served as a hostess that year so most of the night I was refilling the soda station and making sure the coats were hung up properly. I never attended prom as a junior or a senior because it wasn't of much interest to me. I was not into dressing up or putting on make up so whenever prom rolled around I didn't go. As I look back I don't really have any regrets because I don't feel that I missed out on anything.

I attended the prom last year at NBHS and pretty much had to be begged to do so. I've just never been into getting all dolled up and going out. I am really a laid back person who enjoys simply chillin' with a t-shirt and shorts. This year was a special treat because not only would be going to prom again but this time I had a date! LOL! I know this sounds all silly but again I didn't have the high school prom experience (I repeat....NO REGRETS!) so I was actually looking forward to it. The funny part about it is the girls in DIVAS were just as excited about Kevin and I going as we both were! We actually ran into a few students at Walmart earlier that day (around 3:30...mind you prom started at 8!) taking pictures. We stopped then and pumped the kids up and told them we would see them later at the prom.

We had a wonderful time. We only stayed about 2 hours and that was more than enough time. We had an opportunity to laugh, dance, and interact with students. I can honestly say it was a great time had by all. Now I can say I have attended prom and also had a date!

Dinner cruise....

Today Kevin and I had the opportunity to go on a wonderful dinner cruise down in Beaufort, NC. I have made the comment that I am going to start looking at North Carolina through the eyes of a tourist because there really are a lot of things here that can be fun. So, my good friend wanted to celebrate her birthday by going on a dinner cruise and I thought it was be a great way for me and Kevin to have some fun. It was so peaceful being out on the water. The weather was wonderful and I have to admit I didn't feel queasy at all! I get sea sick rather easily and have been known to throw up by simply looking out of a window at a large body of water. I had a wonderful time and can't wait to back again.

Our new addition to the family....

Meet our new addition....Charlotte!! Kevin and I had the grand idea to go to a local pottery store after church on Sunday, April 25, 2008. Once we got there (Accidental Artist in New Bern, NC) it was really hard to decide what were going to do. After much contemplation, I suggested that we pick a piece of pottery to work on together. I thought how cool would it be to paint a piggy bank and call it our "Wedding Fund".

I have to admit I learned a lot from this endeavor:

1. I'm way too uptight at times and I need to learn to let go and just have fun (when time permits...lol).

2. Kevin doesn't follow directions very well. We agreed that we would each paint one side and decorate it to our liking. Tell me why before it was all said and done he was all up on my side painting!

3. It is very important to evenly paint the piece of pottery making sure you get three coats of paint on every surface.

4. Kevin and I truly are made for each other because only the two of us can go into an art studio and quickly become the center of attention!

Enjoy!

This was our fun helper who was really excited about posing for our pictures!

This is Charlotte all naked before we properly covered her...lol~

Is it just me or is Kevin really concentrating on painting in the lines! Check out the "Michael Jordan tongue". LOL!

I can't even lie...I'm concentrating way too hard on this project!

Now you know I couldn't leave Bentley out of the equation!

The finished product!!!!

A huge success....

Every year I strike out to make D.I.V.A.S. better than the year before. On the onset I never know exactly what it is that I want to do. I just know that I want the program to be better than the year before. I strive to keep everyone guessing as to what I am truly capable of doing. Anyway, this school year wasn't any different than how I started out last year. I knew that in the spring I would do some sort of fund raiser to bring money into the program in order to keep it afloat for the next school year. Well, last year I was able to pull of a food tasting event that yielded well over a $1300! Unfortunately I was not able to get the businesses to sign on this year because of the economy. I must admit I was heart broken because it never crossed my mind that I wouldn't be able to pull it off.

Well, as always the Lord works in mysterious ways. I witnessed something back in October on our school campus that left me really angry and motivated to do something about it. I witnessed a female student being beat by her boyfriend in broad daylight only to have students walk by and not one stopped to help her out. Needless to say I was able to get the proper officials involved to help the student but it only after she was beat for approximately ten minutes. I was so angry that in this day and age that kids have become so insensitive that they would walk on by. Due to this unfortunate ordeal, I was compelled to create a week of awareness throughout the school to put teen dating violence along with all other "taboo" issues affecting teens that off limits.

I was very impressed with my girls in D.I.V.A.S. because they were just as passionate about the issues as I was. We worked really hard to create a week's worth of activities that would be informative and hopefully create a spark within the student body as a whole. We ended the week by sponsoring a Teacher vs Student basketball game. That was fun! The teachers won!!! Check out the pictures below.

Going, going, gone....

So last night Kevin and I had the bright idea to shave his face. It was funny because clearly we all know that I don't do well with change. The idea scared me mainly because I'm thinking...what if I don't like his new look? I mean I know the hair will grow back in a matter of days however I had never seen him without facial hair. Here are the pictures....

Before

Half way there....

Finished Product!

I think that it's cute. It will take me some time to get completely used to it. I like it though!

Conflict resolution....

I have been working on my master's degree in conflict resolution for the past year and it has been fun so far. It's really ironic that I would choose that field considering I do not like conflict in my personal life because it really upsets me. Don't get me wrong...I believe that conflict arises for various reasons and from it major change can happen. However, I don't personally like how I feel when I'm in conflict with someone. Recently my sister and I had some issues going on between the both of us. This was probably the first time in a very long time that we had been at odds.

Ultimately I believe the issue that caused the conflict between us was so simple however we both allowed it to escalate into something so major that it caused us not to speak to each other for over a week and a half. Needless to say things are now resolved between the both of us and things are back on the right track. I wouldn't say that we are closer than before but I will say that the lesson we both learned from the conflict is one that I think will last forever!

Rain, rain, go away....

Well, this week has been interesting for me. It was my first full week back from spring break so that within itself was a huge adjustment. The weather has been really crazy...sunny one day and raining the next, then freezing cold after that. I mean talk about pneumonia weather! It's funny watching the kids at school break out their summer attire one day then be dressed for the Swiss Alps the next! Anyway, today has been relaxing for me. I decided early on this morning that I was tired of my house looking a certain way. I have my "OCD"moments from time and this morning just so happened to be one. I got up early and started laundry. It's not that I don't like laundry...it's just that it can be an all day thing and clearly my ADD won't support me being dedicated it for more than one load!

I was also determined today to do something about my 2nd bedroom. It has turned into a dumping ground of some sort mainly because I no longer use it as my home office. Now that I have the lap top I barely go in that room. I used my desktop computer the first time in a long time and that was only because I did my taxes and the software is loaded on that computer. I know it has been maybe 9 months or so since I have actually used that computer. I am in the process of downsizing and getting rid of the somethings. I want to get rid of my corner desk because clearly it's a big piece of furniture and a lap top will look really strange on this big ole desk. I'm giving my desktop to my niece however I have to strip it down before I do it. It's a matter of me taking time out and staying focused long enough (once again the ADD kicks in) to get it done. I have already purchased another book case and a laptop desk to go in there. I will also like to purchase a futon for that room as well so that when guests come over I won't have to give up my bed or feel guilty about not giving up my bed!

Anyway, I digress (ADD moment)...so yes I was determined to clean up today. I cleaned my hall closet which is technically the linen closet but me being me managed to put all sorts of stuff in there. I cleaned it out though and got rid of the junk I had been holding on to. I also organized the closet in the 2nd bedroom. It has turned into a storage space seeing as though I house my extra bedding, Christmas supplies, junk from college, workout equipment (that I obviously don't use), and some pieces of clothing that I don't wear. It is a little better although at some point I need to really go in and throw most of that stuff away. I just can't find it in my heart to part with some of that stuff now.

Well, it is still raining outside. Kevin won't be off work for another hour and half. Bentley is asleep on her bed she obviously got the memo that this is GREAT sleeping weather. Oh well...I guess I will work on some homework since the rain won't go away.....

Back to work I go....

Spring Break 2008 is officially over! I'm a little saddened about having to go back to real world tomorrow morning. All in all I thoroughly enjoyed my 10-day vacation and pretty much accomplished all that I set out to do. Here are some of the highlights:

Meeting the future in-laws: Well, as I stated in an earlier post, I met Kevin's family at the beginning of my break. It was a pleasant trip seeing as though I don't typically do car rides. We made great time and he gets a gold star for driving like he had good sense. He really is a good driver...I simply have my issues. His family is wonderful and I can't wait to go back to visit them as well as have them here. I enjoyed seeing the various parts of Virginia as it related to Kevin's life. He did a great job giving me a tour of the area. I really want to go back when the weather is really nice so that we can fully take in the downtown Norfolk area at night.

Sleep: I can honestly say that I got a lot of sleep during this break! I probably got more than what I originally wanted. What I don't think most people know about me is that I truly keep a busy schedule. It felt so great being able to lay in the bed and not be on any one's schedule but my own. I have to admit on most of the days I felt guilty about simply doing nothing but Kevin constantly reminded me that I was on vacation so it was perfectly fine to be in the bed until 1:00pm! I even noticed that Bentley started getting up later and later! There was a time she would lick my fingers until I got up and took her out at 7:00am at the latest. Oh well, we are both in for a rude awakening (no pun intended) tomorrow morning when it's back to 5:45am!

Taste of New Orleans: It was a great success again this year. I was only able to take 4 girls this year but I must say that they had a good time and I did as well. I did however come to the conclusion that I would like to attend this event in the future without students so that I am able to fully enjoy myself as an adult among other adults! Don't get me wrong because the overall purpose of me taking students to these types of events is to give them the exposure. I would just like to go in order to fully mix and mingle with people my age as well as network. It was still a good time had by all.

...Now I got my DRAMA shot!

In a perfect world all would be well with everyone at every single moment of the day. Again I repeat....in a perfect world all would be well with everyone at every single moment of the day. It's unfortunate that we don't live in a perfect world therefore we are not immune to the unnecessary, unwarranted, childish drama in the world! The cool part is that even though we don't live in a perfect world, we do have the choice to acknowledge, address, or ignore it.

***The following is a message for someone in particular***
It's very unfortunate that the events unfolded as they did on yesterday. As I stated above, I have a choice as to whether I acknowledge, address, or ignore it. At this moment I'm choosing to ignore it until I gather my thoughts and emotions together in order to properly address it.

In the meantime, let me get my shot.....

Meet the Parents!

This past weekend was a real treat for me as I travelled to Virginia to meet Kevin's family. We planned this trip a few weeks in advance so everyone was fully aware of my arrival. This was the first time that Kevin and I had travelled out of the state together and a first for me period to be "taken home to meet the parents". We left late Friday night because Kevin had to work plus it is a little better travelling at night.

We arrived in Chesapeake, VA around 12:45 am and decided to visit Kevin's twin, Keith. I was so excited but at the same time a little nervous to meet Keith. Kevin had told me quite a bit about his twin however it did not fully prepare me for him! They are twins indeed when it comes to appearance and mannerisms however outside of that they are perfect strangers! Keith is very smart and funny. He definitely believes in telling it like it is and keeping it real. We met Kevin's nephew and I really enjoyed playing with him. He is a little ball of energy! He's a cute little boy and he's funny too!

We finally made it to the Reese residence around 2:15ish am. Needless to say we were both quite tired. Mr. Reese heard us stirring around and got up to meet me. He is a very nice man...very friendly and warm. It was neat seeing Kevin get all giddy and happy to be home. After a few minutes of catching up we all headed to bed. We woke up the next morning to chatter in the kitchen. Kevin's aunt had stopped by (I'm thinking to see me, of course!) and everyone was enjoying coffee. I was able to finally meet Kevin's mother and his aunt. They were both very sweet and welcoming as well.

Kevin went to the car and got the plant that I purchased for his mother and our scrapbook. His aunt was the first to actually look at it. Well, as she is looking at the book I am busy talking to everyone else. All of a sudden his aunt jumps out of her chair and wipes her eyes and gives me the biggest hug! She says, "thanks for making my nephew so happy!" I almost lost it!!! That was so sweet!

We all went out to dinner later that night and really had a great time. Afterwards, all the "kids" went to the movies to the new Tyler Perry movie while Kevin's parents took Kevin's nephew home. I really had a great time with the family. It was so comfortable and easy! I can't wait to go back and visit them. Oh, I almost forgot...I had the pleasure of meeting Kevin's grandfather, Robert.

While in Virginia we were able to do some tourist stuff. Kevin took me downtown Norfolk and showed me around. All in all, I have to say it was a wonderful time and I am so happy that I like them and they like me as well. I am now even more excited about my relationship with Kevin.

Every day gets better and better...

So yesterday when I arrived home from work I received a wonderful surprise. I clearly knew something was up because as I talked to Kevin throughout the day he did a poor job hiding the fact that he was up to something! What he didn't know what that I had already sensed something was up and figured that I would stop off and pick up his favorite beer and some wine coolers for me, to add to whatever he had up his sleeve!


Well, I get out of the car and is juggling my bags, work bag, lunch bag, and purse only to discover that the storm door is locked!! My initial reaction was to get a little agitated but I knew that clearly he was up to something so I didn't want to mess up his plans. He comes to the door and I hear the music playing in the background. He takes everything out of my hands and tells me to stay put. Well, anyone who knows me clearly knows that I don't really follow directions well! Again, knowing that he took time out to plan something nice, I obeyed his command (never thought I would hear myself say that!!).


He proceeded to remove my glasses and placed a blindfold on me. I was led to my bedroom then to the bathroom where a nice hot bubble bath was waiting for me. I was totally caught off guard because it was so perfect and nicely orchestrated. He had candles going and soft music...everything to make my afternoon bath perfect! While I enjoyed my bath he finished preparing dinner. We enjoyed our dinner of chicken kabobs, green beans, broccoli, and a nice garden salad. Afterwards we took Bentley for a nice walk.

I have to say I was thoroughly surprised and pleased with my afternoon surprise. It's not everyday you meet someone who is so considerate and caring. I have to admit that with Kevin every day gets better and better!

I think I have it...

Ok, so I've spent the past few hours trying to figure which layout I like. I think for now I am settling on this. I have to admit that I'm quite excited about the is new adventure of blogging. I blogged a little on Myspace however I found myself being really mindful of things I posted because most of my friends were students from the school I work in. My initial reason for even creating my Myspace page was to be able to monitor the pages of students in my program, D.I.V.A.S.

Anyway, I'm excited about this new space to blog because I am really wanting to chronicle the stages of my new relationship. I met Kevin back in December and I can honestly say the past few months have been life changing to say the least. He is an awesome person and every moment we spend together is one filled with laughter and love. He has been a great addition to my life. We are moving into the 3rd month of our relationship. In the past few months, he has taught me that it's ok to have fun throughout the year instead of reserving it to the 2.5 months I'm out of work during the summer! He has also demonstrated to me that having a prayer life isn't something that is out of reach. He keeps me grounded and level headed. All of my friends are quite thankful for the changes he has made in my life because I'm no longer this serious, all business and no play individual. I've learned to relax, live, and let God do His thing!

I truly think I have it!

Not a virgin anymore...

So, I've decided to the plunge and actually create a blog. I actually got this idea from my friend Tomika. I have enjoyed reading her posts and was quite shocked to learn that she had been doing this for several years. I think that for me it will offer an outlet to simply express my thoughts and feelings as well as chronicle some of the crazy things that only happen to me!

Trust me when I say this...my life is never boring! There is always some crazy mishap or situation that always lends itself to funny story for me to share.