Friendship...

My friends have always been important to me. For the most part I have managed to surround myself with a very small circle of individuals who have stood by me through thick and thin. I have clearly transitioned into a phase where I am realizing that the nature of the friendships will change but the friendship can still remain.


On January 14, 2009, Mr. Alexander Thomas lost his battle with leukemia. Mr. Thomas is the father of Jeff Thomas who is my best male friend (outside of my husband of course!). Daddy Thomas was such a wonderful man. He had a great spirit about him and definitely embraced all of Jeff's friends. Kevin and I attended his memorial service on January 18, 2009. This may sound strange but it was a beautiful and uplifting service. A few times I forgot was actually attending a funeral service! Seriously, it was just that uplifting and upbeat. I have no doubt in my mind that Daddy Thomas is resting in Heaven with Jesus. He was truly a wonderful man. This was the first time I've had to support a friend in this way. I am very grateful for my friendship with Jeff. I am even more thankful to God that I was able to support him in his time of sorrow.

On the other side, I recently experienced a very awkward situation with my female best friend. Due to the outcome of the situation I have unfortunately formed a different view of her and our relationship. I wouldn't venture as far to say that it's bad but I will say it's different. We were both hurt and placed in awkward positions however I think at the end of the day some of the actions committed and words spoken by her were not necessary. I still consider her my friend and my best female friend however in the words of Maya Angelou...."When people show you who they really are...you have to believe them".